Research shows that people with strong and broad social relationships are happier and healthier, and live longer.
So, how can we adapt in lockdown?
In these turbulent Covid times, relationships are being tested with a multitude of external stress factors playing a part in our day to day lives. It’s prevalent than ever to remain connected and ensure close relationships with family, remain just that, close – whether that’s temporary distance or long term distance. Close relationships provide love, meaning, support and increase our feelings of self worth.
Broad networks bring a sense of belonging. So taking action to strengthen relationships and build connections is essential for happiness.
Phychologist, Dr John Gottman references a five step programme for repairing troubled relationships.
Drawing on what is referenced as fundamental unit of connection, often known as ‘emotional bids’. Bids can be as subtle as a look, a question or a comment. Those that have happier relationships, are those that make bidding and responding a high priority.
Research indicates that people with happy relationships make bidding and responding to bids, a high priority.
Kindness works, and always be respectful. Show interest in what another person says, in the same household or on the other end of the phone or computer – and you’ll build big dividends in your relationship. Look for the good in others, and make it known. Say what you like out loud and you will get more of it. Return bids with positive interest and you will bring more happiness into your life.
Be Kind this lockdown. Keep safe.